Comments on: Just Love, or Grand Love?

By: mel

mel — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 04:21:35 +0000

Not to be all sappy on you, but I think I might have found my great love. Granted, it’s still early on, but we decided at the beginning that there would be no bullshit. None of this dating game bullshit, that is. Within the first couple of weeks, we put if all out on the table — “This is me! Take it or leave it!” Neither of us turned tail and ran.

This is the first relationship I have ever been in…that I have not had to really WORK at. I have not had to pretend I’m someone I’m not to get him to like me. It has been…easy. Not TOO easy, mind you. But it hasn’t been…a JOB to make this awesome. He feels….just natural to me.

/end ridiculous sappiness NOW.

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By: Annemarie

Annemarie — Sat, 11 Oct 2008 13:08:09 +0000

I think it is, but we’ve been married less than a year. Just being in his presence makes me feel good. Sigh.

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By: Anne C.

Anne C. — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 16:05:11 +0000

I wish I knew. It appears that others have it, but it has eluded me thus far.

I do know that a comfy “we like living in the same house” Just Love is not for me. I met, and dated for about a month and a half, a guy who was nice and fun to talk to. He liked me A LOT and even said (the third date, I believe) “I’m ready to fall in love with you.” But there were times, getting ready for a date that I just thought “do I have to?” He was like dating a Labrador Retriever. It sounds nice until you feel the pressure of their “love me love me love me love me love me.”

I considered throwing away all those other things that were important to me and accepting a lukewarm “you’ll do.” Until I realized that I was setting myself up for a divorce some years down the line. So I broke it off, so he could move on to someone who wanted to get married next year and start having children.

Having looked down the road of the alternative and having turned aside, I know that even if it doesn’t exist for me, I’ll hold out for Grand Love. And in the meantime, I’ll make do with the love (lower-case “L”) of my friends and family. It’s no substitute, but it is the safety net that permits me to reach for the moon.

By: Word Perv

Word Perv — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 13:59:22 +0000

These questions are always hard for me to answer because, as a divorced woman of almost 30, I thought I had GRAND LOVE. I had love, yes, but ultimately it wasn’t what I wanted or needed.

I think it’s out there. I’ve seen it in a few people, my parents included (they’re on 36 years of marriage), have it. We just haven’t found it yet. Believe my friend, believe.